What are the Attachment Styles?

Anxious Preoccupied- A pattern of behavior characterized by a strong fear of abandonment and rejection, leading to a constant need for reassurance and external validation.

Fearful Avoidant- Relationships can feel chaotic, confusing and overwhelming because you swing between being avoidant and anxious. Depending on the relationship, you can shift between being "hot and cold," often feeling confused about your feelings.

Dismissive Avoidant- Intense emotions can feel overwhelming and can cause you to pull away from others. You may find yourself withdrawing from arguments or triggering situations. This need for independence can cause challenges in your relationships and inner conflict for you, because deep down, you want to connect with others.

Secure Attachment- A healthy pattern of relating to others characterized by trust, comfort with intimacy, open communication, and the ability to confidently express one’s needs and feelings. 

What is your Attachment Style? Click on the FREE Attachment Quiz link located at top of page or on the two lines in corner on mobile devices to discover your personal results!

Developed by Mary Ainsworth in the 1970’s during research called the “Strange Situation Study” in which Ainsworth examined young children and their mother’s interactions. According to the attachment theory, although we may be unaware of it as adults, we preserve (subconsciously) the memory of our relationship dynamics with our primary caregivers. As we age, our subconscious mind seeks out companions that resemble that connection. The conditioning of those relationships will be reflected in our attachment styles.

Our minds naturally want to keep us “safe” or “in the familiar”, but when “safe or familiar” aren’t presented as healthy this is where attachment styles may start to form and contribute to the direction of the lives we lead.

How do you heal your Attachment style?

Understanding what is going on in your mind and what might be preventing you from succeeding in your life and relationship dynamics is vital when trying to make positive changes in your life. You can become the person you desire to be through awareness, honesty and action, you already possess the ability…. what are you willing to give to get it?

How can I help you?

My deep dive into Integrative Attachment Theory was my Aha moment, my own childhood and attachment issues resulted in me needing the answer on how to overcome, heal and experience life in a more productive way. As I studied and applied the tools on my own journey, I then understood how our decisions are and can be impacted by our beliefs. I want to assist you with identifying and creating a vision for what you want to achieve. Encouraging your self-discovery and growth while I nurture and evoke strategies and a plan of action based on what will fit best with your goals, personality and vision and cultivate your accountability to increase productivity.

Where do we begin?

Option 1- One on One Life Coaching- Time frame TBD by Client’s Goals

Option 2- Attachment Style Coaching The focus will be to create transformation in a 12-week personalized program in a results-oriented manner by:

A) Isolating & Reprogramming your Core Wounds & Fears

B) Assisting in Understanding & Communicating your own Needs & Expectations

C) Assisting in Tools for Emotional Pattern Regulation

D) Sharing & Creating Strategies for Healthier Coping Mechanisms & Boundaries

E) Supporting Healthier Forms of Communication

If you are in search of developing positive habits, setting and achieving goals,  improving relationships or desiring a deeper spiritual journey that your attachment style may have been holding you back from, take control and reach out, schedule a session with me, and let me assist you with the tools for you to experience fulfilling relationships with others and most importantly to SELF and Attach 2 You!